I. A PREVIEW FOR PROFESSIONALS
Some practical ideas for using our free websites to help families through divorce and other difficult transitions.

Introductory Memorandum to Professionals
In addition to explaining how the websites can help your work with parents, this memo includes court rules, court orders, and professionals' correspondence referring parents to these resources.

Agreed Commitments and Exercises
Sample completed work from UpToParents.

Sample Agreed Commitments and Some Professionals' and Parents' Feedback
These are sample Agreed Commitments the website can build once parents are completed--plus some feedback from professionals and parents about the website.

Current Order in St. Joseph County Indiana Circuit and Superior Courts Regarding Websites
Here are the forms now requiring all divorcing parents in our county to do the work on UpToParents, and all never-married parents to do the work on ProudToParent.

Collaborative Attorneys' Use of UpToParents
A short memo and useful correspondence for collaborative attorneys to expand and improve their practices.

Collaborative Divorce Coaches' and Child Specialists' Use of UpToParents
A short memo for divorce coaches and child specialists to expand and improve their collaborative practices.

Quick Child Needs Review
Forms for referring parents to the site in Word version.

Mediators' Use of UpToParents
Why some family mediators make this website work part of parents' preparation for mediation--and suggestions on using parents' website work to assist mediation.

Co-Parent Educators' Use of UpToParents
A simple plan for making divorce and other co-parenting classes better is to invite parents to do this work beforehand. Ideas and forms for referring parents to the site.

Viewers' Guide for Use in Co-Parenting Classes
Co-parenting educators can use this handout in their classes as they play our free DVD.

Your Voice for UpToParents
Please consider presentations to judges, mediators, and other colleagues on implementing UpToParents.org; see here a short video we can send you to augment your presentation.

Comments
What professionals and parents are saying.

Special Notice to Parents Referred to TransParenting
Judges and co-parenting educators can modity and use this Notice to refer parents ot UpToParents.org before their divorce education classes.

II. A COOPERATIVE SYSTEM OF FAMILY LAW
Some practical ideas on returning law to its intended role as healer of conflict and preserver of relationships.

A Brief Introduction to a Cooperative System of Family Law
This introduction to a cooperative family law system includes 14 measures a jurisdiction can adopt to better meet the true needs of families in divorce and other difficult transitions.

The UpToParents Model Rule for Cooperation in Family Cases
This model court rule for cooperative family law can be adapted to give almost any American or Canadian jurisdiction--American or otherwise--a way to better serve clients and their families.

A Plan for a Single Court's Adoption of Cooperative Family Law Measures
A model rule that a single judge could use to boost cooperation in family law cases.

Infusing Family Mediation with a Family Focus
Here is a lengthier description of how our websites help parents to prepare for success at mediation--including the intake forms we use.

III. OTHER ARTICLES FOR PROFESSIONALS
Articles useful in creating better processes for families in crisis.

Attorneys as Healers: Rediscovering the Law's Problem-Solving Tradition
These authorities show that the movement toward a lawyer's duty of healing is not so much a modern innovation as a return to the profession's highest historical calling.

Family Attorneys' Pledge of Cooperation
Over 50 local family attorneys helped draft and have now endorsed this Pledge of Cooperation, a remarkable commitment to giving families true help in their difficult transitions.

Custody Evaluations: The Overlooked Harm to Clients, Children, and Families
A caution against the dangers of an overused process properly meant for only the rarest cases.

IV. HANDOUTS FOR USE WITH PARENTS
You may find these handouts helpful in your work with divorcing and divorced parents.

The Effects of Parent Conflict on Children
This collection of comments from many researchers and writers demonstrates why reducing conflict must be everyone's priority.

Finishing the Grieving: A Key to Life After Divorce
A resource to help parents deal with what drives most parent conflict.

Let Me Ask This One Time
A 17-year-old girl speaks eloquently about her parents' fighting.

What Matters
A young man's stark account of what his parents' warfare meant to him and his sister.

A Final Vow
An eye-opening pledge from one divorcing father.

Admiring Children to Save Children
Concrete ideas for parents on the power, joy, and necessity of admiring their children--especially during separation or divorce.

Good Kids in Tough Times
Thoughts on disciplining children, especially after separation.

Celebrating My Entire Child
Children need to hear positive statements about both parents--and especially from their parents. Here are some ideas on that challenge.

The Loyalists
A special perspective on children's fear and grief.

Sample Compliments Between Separated Parents
Some of the best compliments and positive memories we've seen from fathers and mothers about each other.

P.L.A.Y. Activities with Children
There are thousands of joyous activities parents can--and must--create with their children. Here are some age-appropriate suggestions.

Joint Legal Custody
A simple explanation of a vital concept.

V. MEDIATION STYLES, FORMS, AND AGREEMENTS
Mediation explanation, intake forms, and sample agreements recommended by our office.

Our Mediation Approach
This memo describes our mediation approach, including the preparation for mediation.

Telephone Intake
Intake form used with initial contact with parents.

Mediator's Initial Discussion with Attorneys
Form used when speaking with parents' attorneys.

Time and Fee Page
File tracking sheet.

The Mediation Alternative
An explanation to parents of what family mediation is--and what it is not.

Family Mediation Intake for Parents Facing Possible Divorce
Intake form for separated couples.

Family Mediation Intake for Divorced Parents
Intake form for divorced couples.

Paternity Mediation Intake for Parents Having One Child Together
Intake form for never-married parents having one child together.

Paternity Mediation Intake for Parents Having More Than One Child Together
Intake form for never-married parents having more than one child together.

Introductory Letter
Standard introductory letter sent to parents after initial phone consultation.

Agreement to Mediation a Divorce Case with One Child
Agreement to Mediate form for separated, divorcing, and divorced couples.

Agreement to Mediate a Divorce Case with More Than One Child
Agreement to Mediate form for separated, divorcing, and divorced couples.

Agreement to Mediate in a Paternity Case with One Child
Agreement to Mediate form for never-married couples.

Agreement to Mediate in a Paternity Case with More Than One Child
Agreement to Mediate form for never-married couples.

Agreement Letters
Some letters memorializing agreements reached by parents using mediation.

VI. INDIANA STATE BAR ASSOCIATION (ISBA) MATERIALS
Handouts for use when showing ISBA mediation DVD.

Ideas for Presenters of the 2006 Mediation Video
Some suggestions for speakers using ISBA DVD.

The Mediation Alternative
Companion handout for "General Mediation" portion of ISBA DVD.

The Family Mediation Alternative
Companion handout for "Family Mediation" portion of ISBA DVD.