When we’re hurt and afraid, it’s natural to want an aggressive advocate in our corner.

In most family cases, however, much good and much less harm can come from an advocate who helps solve problems and build peace.

But this raises two challenges.

1. The concerned parent may ask, “How do I find the kind of lawyer who will be of genuine help to me, not simply someone who turns little fires into huge infernos?”

2. The conscientious lawyer may ask, “Will my client understand my efforts to find fair, economical, and enduring resolutions that serve everyone’s interests?”

The following pages will offer some advice on (1) how to choose a good attorney who will help you and your children and (2) how to be prepared for some of the surprising peacemaking advice you may receive from that attorney.