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Quick Help for Families in TransitionA handy guide for all separated and divorced parents
A Note to Families with a History of Domestic ViolenceGuidance, including on using this website, when there has been violence against a parent or child.
3 Girls' Invisible PainA short visit with the wisest family experts we know (8:14 video)
A Daughter Speaks about SurvivalA daughter talks about what hurt–and what helped (3:54 video)
10 Clear Thoughts--Just When You May Need Them MostMuch better ways to see your challenge and ways to succeed
Spare the ChildA fantastic collection of experts' wisdom from The Family Law Section of the Virginia Bar Association (17:50 video)
12 Thoughts of Children Caught in ConflictThoughts that can hurt your children and hold them back (interactive article)
Finishing Your GrievingA key to life after divorce (2:28 video)
"What Matters" by KevinA young man's painful recollections
"Let Me Ask--This One Time" by JessicaA 17-year-old girl's plea to her parents
Better Use of Your EnergiesSome things to do instead of battling
America's Favorite Form of Child AbuseExposing the most commonly tolerated form of child abuse in America (3:36 video)
The LoyalistsA special perspective on children's fear and grief.
Cigarettes, Seatbelts, and SeparationsThe coming view of parent conflict: not right, not sexy, not defensible (6:22 video)
The Problem Is the ProblemHow parents succeed by attacking the issue, not each other (3:10 video)
What Must I Give Up to SucceedThe one huge price you must pay to succeed (4:15 video)
Your Chance to Reclaim Power over Your LifeThe most helpless time in my life—or is it? (2:21 video)
9 Myths That Fool Almost EveryoneFolklore you must discard to succeed (7:00 video)
The Relationship WheelCreating a new relationship (9:31 video)
Sample Work from ProudToParent.orgWhat parents can build on ProudToParent.org
Admiring Children to Save ChildrenThe best vaccine against children's failure
Fun Helps EveryoneNew ideas for fun with children
Helping Children to Grieve Separation and DivorceFacing losses--honestly and together (interactive article)
The Humane Separation14 quick lessons in making separation more survivable (10:11 video)
The Child Safety ZoneA vital gift extended to some children, but pointlessly denied to others (2:21 video)
Winning by Being a Friend to Their RelationshipHow parents win through support, not competition (3:50 video)
Constructive Separations Using NoDivorceToday.orgA guide on keeping reconciliation options open (3:24 video)
8 Hidden Keys No One Has Told You AboutHeroic steps you can take--on your own, for free, and right away (6:06 video)
Admiring Them by Admiring Their Other ParentA psychologist's view of maybe the single most powerful step forward a parent can take (4:16 video)
Is It a Problem or an Opportunity?A psychologist's encouragement to see opportunities every day (2:15 video)
Bonnie and RossA young couple’s journey to making their son their priority (9:06 video)
A Parenting Plan WorksheetA map for co-parent success
What Exactly Is Joint Legal Custody?A judge's explanation of a vital but misunderstood idea (3:31 video)
Words MatterSome helpful words between co-parents (interactive article)
A Final VowWords from a caring father
Yeah, But You Don't Know My Co-Parent!How your peaceful leadership can make all the difference (interactive article)
The Dangerous Subjectivity of DivorceA psychologist's caution to remember that parents must be a team despite inevitable different vantages (6:41 video)
A Judge’s View on What Happens to Litigating ParentsAn experienced judge's caution on how litigation actually affects parents and parenting(3:39 video)
Some Common Effects of LitigationAn experienced judge's warning about what litigation actually does to parents and children (3:32 video)
How Do Divorce Lawyers Divorce?An inside lesson from copying how lawyers handle their own divorces (3:05 video)
Rely on Your Legal Rights – Or Should You?Some ways that asserting your rights can badly hurt you and your children (3:29 video)
Who Do Those Judges Think They Are?A judge's eye-opening response to those who criticize him (4:03 video)
Na Na Na Boo BooA view of the maturity in most family litigation (3:53 video)
3 Uncommonly Effective Judicial DecisionsThree bizarre decisions, three good outcomes, and one important conclusion (7:02 video)
Family Attorneys' Pledge of CooperationLearn clearer thinking from these more caring attorneys
Why Court Rarely Helps5 reasons to think twice before turning to law (9:26 video)
Choosing an Excellent Family Lawyer9 things you may hear from that lawyer (2:27 video)
Beware Custody Evaluations6 reasons to be very careful (7:44 video)
You, Your Family, and the Law4 important considerations when thinking the law can help (four videos totaling 45:00)
Parents' Introduction To Mediation and UpToParentsUsing this unique website preparation to succeed (3:57 video)
A Psychologist's Caution about Unnecessary Litigation and Custody EvaluationsRemembering to define professionals' responses by families' actual needs (7:56 video)
The No-Divorce-Today OptionConsidering if divorce is really what's best (1:51 video)
Parent Transition TestSee how you are doing
Divorce and the Very Young ChildThey are more aware than we realize (2:24 video)
Divorce and Older ChildrenAll children care--and they'll care forever (3:24 video)
3 Thoughts That Lead to Failure3 thoughts never entertained by the successful parent (5:14 video)
Grandparents Can HelpKeeping grandparents involved--helpfully (4:02 video)